These are my favourite top tips for planning a wedding with a disability or chronic illness and little things that I did to make my wedding easier for me. Some of these are pretty obvious and self explanatory, but sometimes I think it's good to start with the basics and to make a list of your must-do items and top priorities!
I, on the other hand, get given a diagnosis for something incurable and say 'okay, that's annoying' and carry on with my day. My plate is absolutely massive.
Both my physical health and mental health took a turn for the worse over the last few months - I'm having more issues than I know where to begin with and I haven't been able to write for a while, which, in turn, affected my mental health too. In terms of physical health, I'm feeling probably the worst I've ever felt in my life and like my poor little body falling to pieces and there's nothing I can do about it.
Recently, I was put in touch with a girl and a kitten, who had suffered a brain trauma too. The vet asked if I could give her some advice on moving forward with a blind pet, specifically one who had suffered a similar head injury. I realise this a very specific type of disabled pet, but there aren't many places on the internet to get advice about raising a blind or disabled kitten.
I would have been happy to lie in bed forever.
I've been learning ways to let go, to take my mind off things, to be able to move forward and deal with any problems in a healthier way.
I have never been ashamed to admit that I've needed counselling before. To be honest, I'd think it was pretty strange if someone was diagnosed with incurable chronic pain and didn't feel depressed, or scared, or something along those lines.