"You can't take codeine when you're pregnant."
These are my favourite top tips for planning a wedding with a disability or chronic illness and little things that I did to make my wedding easier for me.
Some of these are pretty obvious and self explanatory, but sometimes I think it's good to start with the basics and to make a list of your must-do items and top priorities!
I, on the other hand, get given a diagnosis for something incurable and say 'okay, that's annoying' and carry on with my day. My plate is absolutely massive.
Both my physical health and mental health took a turn for the worse over the last few months - I'm having more issues than I know where to begin with and I haven't been able to write for a while, which, in turn, affected my mental health too. In terms of physical health, I'm feeling probably the worst I've ever felt in my life and like my poor little body falling to pieces and there's nothing I can do about it.
I would have been happy to lie in bed forever.
I have never been ashamed to admit that I've needed counselling before. To be honest, I'd think it was pretty strange if someone was diagnosed with incurable chronic pain and didn't feel depressed, or scared, or something along those lines.
When I started writing my blog, I hoped I would help to reach just one other person with Trigeminal Neuralgia and offer them a bit of comfort, but I'm actually saddened to see that my most popular post, which pulls in views from all over the world every day, is my post about the miracle cure piercing for headaches, the daith piercing, through a piece of middle cartilage on your ear.
This was the first holiday abroad I'd been on with Trigeminal Neuralgia (if we don't count that I experienced the first attack of TN in Rome two years ago), so I was very nervous about travelling with medication and with the constant fear of an attack if pain! I made lists, I stressed to my GP about flying with medication and what if something was wrong with the amount of drugs I need at security at the airport, what if my face hurt too badly on holiday to cope, what if I needed medical attention?